Facing the Shadow : Starting Sexual and

Patrick Carnes is a pioneer in identifying, treating, and studying sexual addiction. His workbook Facing the Shadow is designed as a companion to his groundbreaking books Out of the Shadows, Don't Call It Love, and Sexual Anorexia. Chapter topics include working through denial, understanding the addictive cycle, identifying compulsive behaviors, addressing compulsivity as an intimacy disorder, and more.

Introduction to the Gentle Path Series

vii

Foreword

ix

Preface

xi

What Is Real? Recognizing Self-Delusion

1

(26)

Problems, Secrets, and Excuses

4

(10)

Consequences Inventory

14

(3)

Denial

17

(8)

Getting the Help You Need

25

(2)

What Is an Addiction? Understanding Addictive Behaviour

27

(22)

The Addiction Cycle

28

(2)

The Addictive System

30

(19)

What Are Your Behaviors: Understanding Compulsive Sex

49

(28)

The Ten Types

51

(15)

Courtship Gone Awry

66

(2)

Courtship and the Ten Types

68

(3)

Courtship Inventory

71

(6)

What Is a First Step? Accepting the Problem

77

(18)

Your Sexual Addiction History

79

(13)

Sharing Your First Step

92

(3)

What Damage Has Been Done? Responding to Change and Crisis

95

(42)

Understanding Change

96

(5)

Damage Control Worksheet

101

(28)

Disclosure Plan

129

(3)

Restoration of Trust

132

(5)

What Is Sobriety? Managing Life without Dysfunctional Sexual Behavior

137

(56)

The Sobriety Challenges

145

(7)

Establishing Sobriety

152

(8)

Fire Drill Planning Sheets

160

(7)

Sexual and Relationship Health Plan

167

(4)

Preventing Relapse

171

(4)

Creating Your Recovery Zone: The Personal Craziness Index

175

(9)

Tools for Staying in the Zone

184

(3)

Resisting Relapse

187

(6)

What Has Happened to Your Body? Managing the Physical Impact of Your Addiction

193

(54)

Having a Physical

193

(7)

Addiction Neuropathways

200

(7)

Sexual Neuropathways and Addiction

207

(4)

The Sexual Addiction Matrix

211

(4)

The Arousal Template

215

(10)

Fantasy Worksheet

225

(22)

Where Is Your Support? Creating Your Support System

247

(20)

Learning about the Twelve Step Process

248

(6)

Early Barriers to Meetings

254

(4)

Important People Inventory

258

(4)

Couples Recovery

262

(5)

What Makes for Long-Term Success? Deepening Recovery for Profound Life Change

267

(12)

The First Seven Tasks

272

(7)

Contact for More Information List

279

(2)

Appendix

281

(2)

Resource Guide

283

(4)

For Further Reading

287

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Facing the Shadow : Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery

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