I Don't Want to Talk About It Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convincedpsychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men -- thatmen hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigmaof depression's "un-manliness." Problems that we think of as typicallymale -- difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, andrage-are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts onlyhurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children.This groundbreaking book is the "pathway out of darkness" that these men andtheir families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, healthemselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixespenetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his ownexperiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and thefather of two young sons.

Terrence Real is a major new voice in the public dialogue on gender. He is co-director of the Harvard University Gender Research Project and is a member of the senior faculty at the Family Institute of Cambridge.