Marriage Rules

Coupling up is complicated-Dr. Harriet Lerner's marriage rules are not. Following a unique format perfect for today's world, the renowned author of The Dance of Angergives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. It's a go-to-guide brimming with Lerner's signature clarity, wit, and warmth. Couples today operate in a time famine. One or both parties are likely to be hit by one stress after another, and marriage is the first thing to suffer. Here are memorable, easy-to-grasp rules to remind readers of their own good common sense-or to help them get off automatic pilot and do something different. Each rule is based on solid theory and Lerner's four decades of clinical experience. Marriage Rulesoffers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to: *Calm things down and warm them up *Talk straight and fight fair *Listen well as a spiritual practice *Get a grip on intensity and "over talking" *Connect with a distant partner *Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws *Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness *Know how and when to draw the line *Take back your marriage when things fall apart So here it is-a treasure chest of lively, practical advice, to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that's required is a genuine wish for a better marriage and a willingness to practice.

Harriet Lerner, PH.D., is one of our nations most loved and respected relationship experts. A renowned scholar on the psychology of women and family relationships, she is the author of The New York Times bestseller, The Dance of Anger, and other acclaimed books that together have sold over six million copies. A clinical psychologist in private practice, Lerner is a distinguished speaker, consultant and workshop leader. She has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, and NPR and she hosts the "Dance of Connection" blog on psychologytoday.com. She is also, with her sister, an award- winning children's book writer. She and her husband live in Lawrence, Kansas and have two grown sons.

Following a unique format perfect for today's world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships.

Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to:

• Calm things down and warm them up
• Talk straight and fight fair
• Listen well as a spiritual practice
• Connect with a distant partner
• Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws
• Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness
• Know how and when to draw the line
• Take back your marriage when things fall apart

  Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that's required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.