Safety for Stalking Victims: How to Save Your Privacy, Your Sanity, and Your Life

, by Bates, Lyn

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ISBN: 9780595181605 | 0595181600
Cover: Paperback
Copyright: 6/1/2001

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Foreword

xiii

Linden Gross

Preface

xvii

Acknowledgements

xxi

Introduction

xxiii

Stalking, Fear, and Danger

(22)

What is stalking?

Who are stalking victims?

Necessary and unnecessary fear

Who stalks?

Types of stalkers

``Why me?''

``It's not fair!''

``So, how much danger am I in?''

Relaxed awareness

The First, Most Essential Things to do

(16)

Take responsibility for your own safety

``He's trying to drive me crazy, and I'm not going to give him the satisfaction!''

``I'm not going to give in to my fear!''

How to prevent stalking from starting

As soon as you think you might have a problem

As soon as you know you have a problem

Take control

Your Personal Information---A Stalker's Treasure

(30)

Who has personal information about you?

``I know where you live!''---your address

A stalker's favorite toy---your phone number

The key to your identity---your Social Security Number

Other personal information---safeguard it like gold

Interlude 1: What Would You Do?

(2)

Home---Your Refuge or Your Stalker's Playground?

(14)

If you rent

If you live in a house or condo

Make your home ``unfriendly'' to intruders and watchers

Coming and going from home

The One Place You Have to Be---At Work

(9)

Change your work environment, not your job

Things to do every day

Interlude 2: What Would You Do?

(3)

Going for a Ride---Your Car

(9)

In and around your vehicle

Driving safely

Public Places---is There Safety in Numbers?

101

(6)

Be prepared

On foot

Public transportation

Bicycles

Cyber Safety---is it Possible?

107

(8)

Your computer

Using the Internet

Interlude 3: What Would You Do?

113

(2)

Using The Telephone---You Thought You Knew How

115

(7)

Don't let him hear your voice

Phones and phone companies

Making and receiving calls

What Nobody Else Will Tell You About Self-Defense

122

(28)

``Empty-Handed'' fighting

Noisemakers

Pepper spray and other chemicals

Persuader / Kubotan

Knives

Stun guns

Firearms

Defensive driving

Improvised weapons

Diversify your safety portfolio

Interlude 4: What Would You Do?

148

(2)

Interacting with ``The System''

150

(8)

Police

Witnesses

Lawyers

Prosecutors

Newspapers, TV, radio, politicians

Questions Stalking Victims Ask

158

(24)

``What else can I do?''

``Should I hire a bodyguard?''

``Should I get a restraining order?''

``Should I move? Change jobs?''

``How does the stalker find me?''

``I have kids. Is there anything special I should do?''

``I may be a target for a celebrity stalker. What can I do?''

``What can the police and others do to help me?''

``I'm on a tight budget. How can I afford safety?''

Interlude 5: What Would You Do?

180

(2)

Mistakes to Avoid

182

(7)

Mistakes stalking victims make

Mistakes police and the legal system make

Mistakes friends and family make

Dealing with the Stress

189

(2)

Afterword

191

(2)

Appendix A: Organizations and Web Sites

193

(10)

Appendix B: Sample Stalking Log

203

(2)

Bibliography

205

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