Why Can't We Talk?

God¿s imperatives for us¿ to practice peacemaking, love others and build community¿ all begin with authentic dialogue. Think of an issue that makes your blood boil. Now imagine lunch with a friend who is just as passionate about it¿on the other side. How can the two of you even broach the issue, let alone hear each other with curiosity and compassion? The answer begins long before the lunch does, by learning to engage dialogue as a habit of the heart¿an inner transformation that the ancient practices of Christian spirituality can address. This highly readable and timely guide to restoring dialogue shows Christians of many stripes how to cultivate this transformation while preparing them to approach their adversaries with curiosity, civility and compassion. This book: ¿ Examines the obstacles that keep us from dialogue: black-and-white thinking, our ¿distraction lifestyle,¿ the fear of change and others. ¿ Explores the strengths of character from which healthy dialogue springs¿and the work of the soul that cultivates them. ¿ Shows how to enhance the work of the soul by engaging the world around us. ¿ Lays out practical guidelines for dialogue and how they work in an imperfect world. ¿ Includes extended anecdotes of dialogue in action, from resolutions of interpersonal conflict to difficult dialogues on some of the most divisive issues of our age. ¿ Uses provocative questions at the end of each chapter to stimulate group discussion and individual reflection.