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- ISBN: 9780415455473 | 0415455472
- Cover: Nonspecific Binding
- Copyright: 5/14/2008
We want to believe that break-up and divorce may be tough in the short term, but that time will heal all. But is it a dangerous myth? Breaking Up Bluespresents evidence of the risks of remaining caught in bitter battle; of failing to learn from past difficulties; in refusing to mind; or becoming caught in self-hatred and despair. What looks like self-protection can turn out to be self-destructive. Self-help books tell you not to fight '¬ ; but not why battles are so addictive. They tell you to bin your baggage and be positive '¬ ; but if that is all you do, you can'¬"t have any memories of past good times, or of any joint achievements. They tell you to reach out and find someone new '¬ ; but not until you'¬"ve done the emotional work can you risk being open to a new partner. Nor do they remind you of the threat to self-esteem of brief flings. Break-up and divorce can also offer an opportunity for growth '¬ ; whether originally looked for, or not. You need to find your resources (including how to manage feelings of panic, loneliness, guilt and grief) and re-find your self-worth. Abraham Lincoln said that "sucess in life consists of moving from one failure to another without losing enthusiasm". This book shows you how.