How Long Does It Hurt? A Guide to Recovering

How Long Does It Hurt? is the revised and updated edition of the best-selling book written by an incest survivor for future survivors. This step-by-step guide speaks directly to victims of sexual abuse¾to help them come to grips with what is happening to them and overcome their feelings of isolation, confusion, and self-doubt.

Cynthia L. Mather is a survivor of sexual abuse and incest, and speaks at schools, colleges, and churches across the country about child and teenage sexual abuse treatment and prevention. Kristina E. Debye, L.C.S.W.-C., A.C.S.W., D.C.S.W., is coordinator of the nationally acclaimed Baltimore County Sexual Abuse Treatment Program and maintains a private practice in Maryland.

Thank You

xi

Foreword

xiii

Preface to the First Edition

xv

Preface to the Revised Edition

xvii

PART ONE The Hurting Begins

1. You're Not Alone

3

(10)

2. Is What Happened Really Abuse?

13

(10)

3. Internet Sex Crimes

23

(18)

PART TWO Blowing the Whistle

4. Telling

41

(18)

5. What Will People Say?

59

(7)

6. What's Happening to Me?

66

(12)

7. Living with Your Family After You Tell

78

(23)

8. Going to Court

101

(24)

PART THREE Forward Motion

9. Healing Is a Choice

125

(13)

10. Respecting How You Survived

138

(16)

11. Making Way for Your Future

154

(17)

12. Forgiving: Will You or Won't You?

171

(9)

13. Sex: What It Is, What It Isn't

180

(21)

PART FOUR Things to Know

14. What You Should Know About Offenders

201

(17)

15. What Friends of Victims Should Know

218

(16)

16. What Some Survivors Would Like You to Know

234

(15)

Notes

249

(2)

Bibliography

251

(4)

Index

255

(12)

The Authors

267

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How Long Does It Hurt? A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families

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