The Idiot Guide to Love

THE IDIOT GUIDE TO LOVE presents an alternative understanding to what is commonly called love, and which is in the author's view an inextricable unity of form and substance, of emotion and attraction, and as a consequence of emotional attraction and sexual attraction. The author's special regard is upon sexual paraphilias and he cognitively evaluates uncommon love opions, such as pedophilia, showing that they are not as uncommon as one may think and that the official rhetoric regarding adult-child sexual relations is by and large flawed, distorted, irrational, and a direct outflow of consumerist ideology.The guide addresses the reader in person, to help them individually to live their love and desire in a healthy and guilt-free manner that brings blessings to themselves and their mates. Genuine morality knows to make the distinction between fantasy and real-life action, and thus can act out rape within the safe haven of fantasy. What happens, however, in patriarchal and moralistic culture is that because the imaginary realm is precluded by compulsive morality, the taboo is acted out in situations that are put on stage as exceptional, thus justifying derivations from the norm, such as wars and civil wars, and the eternal massacres of ethnic and tribal minorities, which are thus raped in all possible ways for safeguarding and upholding the collective psychosis within the allegedly righteous large civilizations.The guide shows that what we choose for ourselves, as our individual life paradigm, has immediate repercussions upon the social arena, and that we are thus responsible for our laws and social policies, if we agree with them or not. This is an insight that is supported by both radical spirituality (Krishnamurti) and quantum physics, but it has never been rigorously applied to the question of how to establish world peace through the abandonment of all and every moralistic solution, law or policy.