The Lesbian Parenting Book A Guide to Creating Families and Raising Children

, by Clunis, D. Merilee; Green, G. Dorsey

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ISBN: 9781580050906 | 1580050905
Cover: Paperback
Copyright: 5/27/2003

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Indispensable information on lesbian parenting drawn from the author's ownarenting experiences covers such important areas as pregnancy, legalities ofustody, working mothers, and more, encompassing all stages of parenthood andncluding insights from family specialists and other lesbian families

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Introduction: Navigating the Journey of Lesbian Parenting

(6)

Section One: Our Lives as Lesbian Families

(160)

We're Here to Stay: Our Unique Families

(10)

What's It Like Being a Lesbian Family?

Structure and Language

Coming Out

The Strengths of Our Families

A Challenge to Sexism

Egalitarian Arrangements

More Room at the Table

A Wide Support Network

A Broader Perspective

Our Evolving Families

Starting Out: Alternative Insemination, Foster-Parenting and Adoption

(22)

Children---To Have or Not to Have?

Pregnancy via Alternative Insemination

An Insemination ``Prep Talk''

A Word About HIV and AIDS

The Great Lesbian Sperm Chase

A.I. with a Known Donor

Romancing the Syringe: At-Home Insemination

Getting Pregnant the Old-Fashioned Way

When You Can't Conceive

Foster-Parenting

Loving and Letting Go

Adoption

Crossing Ability, Cultural and Racial Lines

Agency Adoption

Foster-Adopt Programs

Independent Adoptions

International Adoptions

How Do I Know If I Like Having Children in My Life?

Branches on Our Family Tree: Partners, Fathers, Siblings and Others

(20)

What's in a Name?

Beyond Our ``Job Descriptions''

Fathers and Other Men in Our Lives

Fathers via Marriage

Donors: Anonymous or Known?

Fathers via Chosen Family

Father Fantasies

Male Role Models

Changing Relationships

Extended Family: From ``Goddess-Parents'' to Grandparents

The Significance of Siblings

New Visions

Coming Out to Our Children and Families

(25)

Defining Our Terms: Coming Out, Heterosexism and Homophobia

The Advantages of Coming Out to Our Children

Intimacy vs. Secrecy

Open Communication

Self-Esteem

The Risks of Coming Out to Our Children

How to Come Out to Children

``But What's a Lesbian?'': Coming Out to Young Children

``What If She Hates Me?'': Considerations with Adolescents

Coming Out to Adult Children

Coming Out Transgendered

Navigating in the World: Our Children's Issues

Full Circle: Coming Out to Our Family of Origin

When Lesbian Becomes Parent

When Parent Becomes Lesbian

Engaged Parenting: Communication and Conflict Resolution

(26)

Caring Communication

Listening So Children Will Talk

Talking So Children Will Listen

Setting Limits

Resolving Conflicts Constructively

Parents as Models

Resolving Conflicts with Young Children

Sibling Rivalry

Resolving Conflicts with Adolescents

The Tradition of Family Meetings

When to Get Help

Helping Our Children Through Loss and Divorce

112

(20)

The Stages of Grief

Supporting Your Child Through the Grieving Process

Helping Your Child Face Death

Death of a Child

Divorce

Navigating Divorce: The Challenges for Parents

What Divorce Does to Kids: Short Term

What Divorce Does to Kids: Long Term

Telling Your Child About Divorce

Lesbian Divorce

Confronting Racism and Building Rainbows

132

(21)

How Racist Are We?

Defining Our Terms

How Racism Affects Individuals

How Racism Affects Families

Thinking About Adoption and Race

Living in an Interracial Adoptive Family

``You Picked Me Out!'': How Children Perceive Race and Adoption

Interracial Couples with Children

Raising Bias-Free Children

Building Self-Esteem and Positive Racial Identity

Confronting Racist Comments

When Your Child Practices Racism

When Your Child Experiences Racism

Walking Our Talk

Celebrating Our Lives: New Family Traditions

153

(14)

Reclaiming Rituals and Building Traditions

Everyday Rituals

Earthly Delights

Holiday Celebrations

LGBT Pride Holidays and Celebrations

Spur-of-the-Moment Gatherings

Birthdays and Rites of Passage

While We're Apart

Death

Creating Your Family Traditions

Section Two: Parenting Our Children as They Grow

167

(180)

At the Very Beginning: Pregnancy and Childbirth

169

(17)

Great Expectations

A Pregnancy Preview

Getting Support

A Word for Adoptive Parents-to-Be

Days in the Lives of Pregnant Lesbians

Childbirth

Getting Quality Prenatal Care

Birthing Issues for the Pregnant Mother

... and Her Partner

Labor Preparation: From Birthing Classes to Popsicles

Giving Birth at a Hospital

At a Birthing Center

A Home Birth

Miscarriage and Stillbirth

Your New Baby: The First Eighteen Months

186

(17)

Development Guideposts

Newborn to Six Months: Pee, Poop, Tears ... and Smiles

Six to Eighteen Months: Learning Through Movement

Parenting Issues

Who Does What?

Family and Friends: Help or Hindrance?

Out in the World

Child-care Choices

Safety

Parenting the Toddler: Eighteen Months to Thirty-Six Months

203

(17)

Development Guideposts

Physical Skills

Cognitive Advances

Psychological

Social Development

Parenting Issues

Becoming Independent

``I Go Potty!''

The Gentle Art of Discipline

She Said ... She Said: Being Consistent as a Couple

Support Groups and Play Groups

Out in the World

Toddler ``Outings''

Out at Work

Couple Time

The Emerging Child: Three to Six Years

220

(19)

Development Guideposts

Spirals of Change

Physical Skills

Cognitive Advances

Emotional/Social Development

Gender and Sexuality

Parenting Issues

Moms as Mirrors

The ``Why'' Years

Out in the World

Structured Environments: Preschool and Kindergarten

Safety

Religious Groups

International and Interracial Adoptions

Time Out for Relationships

You and Your Partner

Educating Your Extended Family

Logic and Rules; Fairness and Morals: Six to Ten Years

239

(20)

Development Guideposts

The Logical Child

Rules and Moral Reasoning

Emotional

Social Development

Physical Skills

The Playing's the Thing

Parenting Issues

Playing by the Rules

Values---Yours, Mine and Ours

Vacations Without the Kids

Out in the World

Sports

School

Sex Education

The World Wide Web

Moving and Making Friends

The Journey of Adolescence: Not Necessarily a Nightmare

259

(18)

Four Myths About Adolescence

Adolescent Development: An Overview

Early, Late or on Time

Skills: Now You See Them, Now You Don't

Raising Boys ... and Raising Girls

The Damaging Messages Our Daughters Hear

Putting Your Own Adolescence in Perspective

Keeping Adolescents Safe

Shifting the Parenting Gears

Engaged Parenting ... Adolescent-Style

On the Road to Adulthood: Ten to Fourteen Years

277

(26)

Development Guideposts

Physical Changes

Sexual Awakening

Intellectual and Moral Development

Emotional Growth

Is This Problem Serious?

Depression

Suicide

Eating Disorders

Parenting Issues

Separation and Independence

School and Social Life: Get Involved or Steer Clear?

Independence and Identity: Fourteen to Eighteen Years

303

(27)

Development Guideposts

Intellectual and Moral Development

Emotional Growth

The Social Scene

The Golden Age of Friendship

Parenting Issues

Is Your Teen's Having a Job Good or Bad?

Sex, Drugs and Rock `n' Roll

Is This Problem Serious?

Drug and Alcohol Problems

The Academic Slide

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