Polysecure Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

Jessica Fern is a registered psychotherapist who lives in Boulder, CO.

IntroductionPART ONEChapter One: An Overview of Attachment TheoryChapter Two: The Different Dimensions of AttachmentChapter Three: The Nested Model of Attachment and Trauma PART TWOChapter Four: Consensual NonmonogamyChapter Five: Attachment and NonmonogamyChapter Six: The Importance of Attachment in Consensual NonmonogamyPART THREEChapter Seven: The Foundations of Being Polysecure in Your RelationshipsChapter Eight: The HEARTS of Being PolysecureChapter Nine: The S in HEARTS—Secure Attachment with SelfChapter Ten: Common Questions and Final ThoughtsNotesBibliographyIndex