Snap Strategies for Couples 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls

Lana Ribble Staheli, Ph.D. is an interpersonal relationship and life strategy consultant. She has had a successful private counseling, coaching and consulting practice for more than 35 years.

Lana is a founding member of the board of directors for the Center for Women and Democracy at the University of Washington. She is also founding chair of the global networking program,

She is a member prestigious International Women’s Forum and current president of the Washington State Women’s Forum. Lana is also a former member of the board of Harvard University’s Kennedy School of Government.

Lana and her husband, Lynn Staheli, M.D. (who have been married more than 37 years) are co-founders of Global HELP (Health Education through Low-cost Publications). A non-profit organization, Global HELP offers free medical information resources to developing countries.

Lana has also established an endowment at Seattle Children’s Hospital. It is her way to give back to the profession that saved her life some 60 years ago..

Dr. Lana is the author of Affair-proof your marriage; The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Affair proof love; Bounce Be Transformed and is currently working on a new relationship book. She is the relationship expert for KIXI 880 am radio, Chat with Women program.


Pepper Schwartz is Professor of Sociology at the University of Washington where she teaches classes on human sexuality and intimate relationships. She is the author or co-author of 22 books including the New York Times best seller, The Normal Bar: The surprising secrets of Happy Couples. She is Past President of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, the Love, Sex and Relationship Ambassador for AARP, and has won awards for translating academic work into a more readable format for the public. An expert on match making and dating, she created the matching algorithm for PerfectMatch.com, wrote Dating after 50 for Dummies and is on a team of four relationship experts for Married at First Sight, the hit show on arranged marriage that A&E Network TV network has created for their FYI channel. She has often appeared on Oprah, The Today Show, CBS Morning News, Good Morning America and other major television shows and blogs frequently for CNN.com, hisandhersvacations,com., and ARRP.org. Pepper lives on a horse ranch near Seattle, Washington, and has two adult children, Ryder and Cooper, who both do relationship and other kinds of counseling. Her life partner is Fred Kaseburg.

Chapter 1: Redundant Conversations
Chapter 2: Refusal to Change
Chapter 3: Snarky Comments
Chapter 4: Insensitive Remarks
Chapter 5: Lack of Play
Chapter 6: Avoid Damaging Arguments
Chapter 7: Doubting Your Partner’s Intentions
Chapter 8: Unavoidable Issues
Chapter 9: Criticism
Chapter 10: Missing Manners
Chapter 11: Careless Love
Chapter 12: Difficult Conversations
Chapter 13: Finding Intimacy
Chapter 14: Insults
Chapter 15: Overreacting
Chapter 16: Taking Each Other Seriously
Chapter 17: Discovering Love Languages
Chapter 18: Delayed Decisions
Chapter 19: Steamrolling
Chapter 20: Learning to Engage
Chapter 21: Touch
Chapter 22: Giving Compliments
Chapter 23: Being Grateful
Chapter 24: Forecast Your Future
Chapter 25: Argument Escalation
Chapter 26: Protect Your Partner’s Flank
Chapter 27: Neglecting “Us”
Chapter 28: Stifle Unwanted Advice
Chapter 29: Over-thinking Your Partner’s Mood
Chapter 30: Harmful Humor
Chapter 31: Neglecting Appearance
Chapter 32: Celebrating Strengths
Chapter 33: Creating Desire
Chapter 34: Plan Sex
Chapter 35: Invitation or Accusation
Chapter 36: Sexual Surprises
Chapter 37: DIY: Customize Your Relationship
Chapter 38: Confessions
Chapter 39: Celebrate Every Occasion
Chapter 40: Dessert