Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

"Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage," Dr. Gary Chapman No wonder the divorce rate hovers around fifty percent. Bestselling author and marriage counselor, Gary Chapman, hopes to change that with his newest book. Gary, with more than 35 years of counseling couples, believes that divorce is the lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as intimate teammates. So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive and mutually beneficial marriage men and women long for. It's the type of information Gary himself wished he had before he got married. This is not a book simply to be read. It is a book to be experienced. The material lends itself to heart-felt discussions by dating or engaged couples. To jump-start the exchanges, each short chapter includes insightful Talking it Over; questions and suggestions. And, the book includes information on interactive websites as well as books that will enhance the couples experience. Dr. Chapman even includes a thought-provoking appendix. By understanding and balancing the five key aspects of life, dating couples can experience a healthy dating relationship. A revealing learning exercise for dating couples is included at the end.

1. That being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage2. That romantic love has two stages3. That the saying: "Like mother, like daughter" and "Like father, like son" is not myth4. How to solve disagreements without arguing5. That apologizing is a sign of strength6. That forgiveness is not a feeling7. That toilets are not self-cleaning8. That we needed a plan for handling our money9. That mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic10. That I was marrying into a family11. That spirituality is not to be equated with "going to church"12. That personality influences behaviorEpilogueAppendix: Developing a healthy dating relationship