When Helping You Is Hurting Me Escaping the Messiah Trap 30th Anniversary Edition

When Helping You Is Hurting Me has offered insight and healing for those who are trapped in toxic relationships doing all of the giving while the other person does all the taking. The dynamics and dangers of the Messiah Trap are revealed, as well as the seven messiah styles—pleaser, protector, giver, rescuer, counselor, teacher, and crusader. The author illustrates how taking on such roles as a means of establishing self-worth inevitably leads to personal pain and destruction of relationships and self-worth. In this anniversary edition, readers are given additional resources (digital and print) with links to online interactive exercises, worksheets, and recovery tips.

Carmen Renee Berry is the author of 17 books including Girlfriends, on the New York Times best-seller list for 52 weeks, and her latest title, The Unauthorized Guide to Sex and the Church. She is a nationally noted speaker, publishing consultant, and former psychotherapist, who has appeared on hundreds of radio and television programs such as Oprah and CNN.