In Your Power React Less, Regain Control, Raise Others

Be Powerful in a World that Can Make You Feel Powerless

Whether dealing with an underperforming team member, an undervaluing boss, an undermining colleague, a difficult family member or partner, or the overwhelm of too much to do, we can find ourselves feeling “out of our power.” In this state of feeling ‘done to,’ emotionally hijacked, or in a mental swirl, the typical things we do to try to make it better often make it worse.

Based on her research at Harvard Medical School and twenty years as a business psychologist, Dr. Sharon Melnick, a Marshall Goldsmith Top 100 Coach, shows you how to get back “in your power,” where you see how much you can control to show up as your best self and get the outcome you want. In Your Power: React Less, Regain Control, Raise Others guides you through twelve Power Portals, giving you a new approach to stop reacting to others’ limitations and instead raise yourself and others to be limitless. You will be able to:

• Reframe the problem to instantly find new solutions that benefit everyone and improve the culture you are all dealing with
• Neutralize the emotional effects of other people’s negativity, rather than internalizing it, and recover quickly
• Align others with your vision and powerful truth so they are emotionally moved and engaged to act

The insights you’ll learn fuel resilience and well-being, rather than burnout, which comes from lack of power. In Your Power will help you win the promotion, get team members to perform at your standards, grow your business, connect with difficult loved ones, and maximize what you can control in the face of world events. With this bulletproof recipe, you can set the tone and be the best version of yourself all day long, no matter what situation you find yourself in.

Sharon Melnick, PhD, is a leading executive coach and speaker in the areas of resilience, power, and women’s leadership. Informed by 10 years of research at Harvard Medical School, she is a Marshall Goldsmith Top 100 Coach who has coached and trained at over 60 Fortune 500 organizations and numerous equity-owned and start-up companies. Her presentations have created buzz at conferences around the world (including at the White House and the United Nations). She enjoys hosting the Power Shift podcast.

Introduction 1

Part I Be the Thermostat (Not the Thermometer) 13

1 From Out of Your Power to In Your Power 15

2 From Chaos to Control 37

Part II Portals to Be In Your Power 49

3 Precision: From Instinctive to Intentional 51

4 Perspective: From Casualty to Creator 65

5 Physiology: From Hijack to Natural High 81

6 Purpose: From Your Small Game to Your Big Game 101

7 Psyche: From React to Reclaim 117

8 Proficiency: From Invisible to Invaluable 141

Part III Portals to Use Your Interpersonal Power for the Good of All 155

9 Persuasion: From Unheard to Undeniable 157

10 Partnership: From My Problem to Our Solution 173

11 Protection: From Silent Suffering to Sovereignty 189

12 Powerful Truth: From Angry to Authentic 209

13 People: From Alone to Amplified 227

14 Position: From Overlooking Your Power to Owning It 243

Part IV Create a Ripple Effect 261

15 Power Is a Lifestyle 263

Notes 269

Acknowledgment 279

Index 283

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