10,000 NOs How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES

Learn how to persevere and pivot to achieve your goals from a celebrated Hollywood actor  

10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES  chronicles actor Matthew Del Negro’s tough journey from humble beginnings, through a sea of rejections, on the way to his eventual rise to become a recognizable face on some of history's most acclaimed television shows. Along the way, he learned hard lessons about perseverance, persistence, and resilience. Teaching readers how to make it through the tough times and deal with massive uncertainty by retaining the flexibility to change course and pivot to follow your passion, Del Negro explains how to achieve success in even the most competitive industries. 

The book, which delves into his personal story from Division I athlete to his professional dream of becoming an actor without any show business connections, shares the wisdom and knowledge Del Negro has gained from both his failures and successes in one of America’s most competitive industries: professional acting.   

Amidst his own stories from life and acting, Del Negro weaves anecdotes and quotes from interviews he has had with a wide range of inspirational people from all walks of life on his popular podcast, 10,000 NOs. The list of high-achievers includes professional athletes, bestselling authors, Forbes list entrepreneurs, cancer survivors, Hollywood elite, and more. His celebrated and top-ranked podcast in the U.S., Canada, and Australia, continues to inspire others to keep going even when their progress seems infinitesimally slow.   

Matthew Del Negro (http://www.matthewdelnegro.com/ Los Angeles, California) is a professional Actor who can currently be seen as Detective Chris Caysen, Captain of the Youth Violence Strike Force on Showtime's popular new Boston crime drama series, City on a Hill, starring Kevin Bacon. He has built an impressive career by playing a wide range of roles in features, television and theater, including juicy turns on ABC's "Scandal", HBO's "The Sopranos", NBC's "The West Wing", Showtime's "The United States of Tara", MTV's popular "Teen Wolf" and, now, "Goliath" on Amazon's Prime Video. Matt began his career in small theater productions in New York before landing a pivotal recurring role on Season 4 of, "The Sopranos". Using that momentum, Matt segued onto NBC's critically-acclaimed "The West Wing" and Showtime's "The United States of Tara". Eventually, his portrayal of Michael, on the smash hit "Scandal" gained him wide recognition as an actor with range. In July of 2017, Matt launched his podcast, 10,000 "No's with Matthew Del Negro, where he sits down with top-shelf folks from all walks of life about the rejections they've had to endure and struggles they've had to overcome on their journey to where they are today. It is available on iTunes, Spotify and at 10000nos.com.

Introduction ix

Chapter 1 Getting Started 1

Chapter 2 Work Ethic 13

Chapter 3 Performance, Anxiety, and Instinct 25

Chapter 4 Discipline and Training 41

Chapter 5 Risk 53

Chapter 6 Perseverance 65

Chapter 7 Reframing 77

Chapter 8 Surrender 89

Chapter 9 Transformation 103

Chapter 10 Leadership 117

Chapter 11 Meditation and Relaxation 133

Chapter 12 Belief and Faith 147

Chapter 13 The Subconscious 159

Chapter 14 Just Be a Good Person 169

Chapter 15 Focus and Singularity 177

Chapter 16 Facade versus Reality 189

Epilogue 197

Acknowledgments 201

About the Author 203

Index 205

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